Finagle, Faith and Finally a Baby Girl!
MINDSET MAKEOVER MONDAYS 8-19-24
DISCUSSION TOPIC: "When did trusting God’s timing lead to a surprise blessing?"
STORY: FINAGLE, FAITH and FINALLY A BABY GIRL
Chyle lemme tell you a story about being knocked down but refusing to be knocked out! If you’ve read my book you knowwwwww how badly I wanted two daughters. Well although God gave me my babies in the exact order that I’d asked Him years prior, my two boys first then my two girls, I was very doubtful initially. Soooo, I concocted a plan to change things up a bit to ease my doubt and fear. I told Him, you can gon and give me my two girls first to get that outta the way theeeeen, you can give me my two boys! Comprende God? I can breathe now that we got an understanding! I think we do, at least I hope we do! Do we God?
Well, when I was expecting my first child, I was uneasy because God was being a Lil stubborn, not confirming our agreement. Ok, ok, my request, ya happy now! Sadly, I was walking by Mental Assent. You see, I knew and believed that God “could” easily fulfill my request. However, I didn’t believe that He “would”. Was I worthy enough, good enough, in right standing with Him. Like had I confessed every sin or did I forget to tell Him about some of them? I was steeped in religion and its works so fear and doubt prevailed.
My first and second children were my amazing sons (remember this is my initial answered prayer) but not my revised one! Now the pressure was really on, and I felt God was playing hardball. Hmmmm, I’m thinking while tapping my fingers on the table, ok God, I see how you wanna play! So you want me to beg? Nope, I’m not gonna do it as I slowly walk away…… Then I quickly went back and did the Fresh Prince knee slide across the room saying Pleaseeeeeee, pah-leaseeeee let my next two be girls!!!! Whewwwww chyle, I had to pull myself together. I was all over the place desperately trying to manipulate my mess! Although I was new in my Christian Walk, one thing I knew for sure, THIS was NOT walking in FAITH!!
I began to study true Faith, joined and followed Faith-based ministries. Joyce Meyer and Creflo Dollar were my two TV Faith Leaders. I soon began to meditate, speak and act on those Faith scriptures. I felt and saw the transformation of my mindset slowly take place. First I saw it happen in the little things then watched in awe as it escalated into the manifestation of the my bigger prayer requests being fulfilled.
Then at the cusps of my new mindset transformation through building my faith, I miscarried 4 babies in 7 months! Whoaaaaa, I was totally blind-sided, although I was very hurt, THIS time I had a different foundation one built with faith. I knew this meant war using my weapons of faith. Although my doctor said that I shouldn’t try to get pregnant again and my family was very understandably concerned, God impressed upon my heart something different. My baby girls were still to come! We were in agreement this time! It was a different ballgame, I was a different person, I EXPECTED to WIN! No more desperate tricks and gimmicks! I was building something real, something solid.
I got pregnant 6 months later as recommended by doctors knowing in my heart that I was carrying my precious baby girl! Everyone including family and friends insisted it was a boy. Their logic was my mother and mother=in=law each had 3 boys first! Nine months later, my beautiful baby girl made her grand entrance! Ha, so much for their logic! I won in several ways, I was building a faith that overcomes, I got my baby girl and I learned that me + God is the majority!
Outcome: I held onto my faith, even after facing heartbreak and doubt, and was ultimately blessed with the daughters I had prayed for in the desired order before fear settled in. Through the journey, I built an unshakable faith, learned to trust God’s timing, and discovered that aligning my mindset with God's truth led to the fulfillment of my deepest desires.
Limiting Belief: low self-worth and doubt - I believed that while God could grant my request, He might not want to because of my perceived shortcomings, sins, or unworthiness. I felt that I had to earn or manipulate His favor and grace.
Mindset: (Manipulation) - My mindset was trying to manipulate outcomes and feeling desperate.
Close: I shifted, evolving from a place of fear and doubt to one of expectation, confidence, and unwavering trust in God’s plan. I learned that true faith isn’t about begging or bargaining; it’s about believing that God’s timing and ways are perfect, even when they don’t align with my own.
So, what’s the takeaway, my friends? Elevate those expectations! Don’t settle for a mindset that questions if you’re worthy—embrace the truth that with God, you’re more than enough. Whether it’s a baby girl, a new job, or a long-awaited dream, faith isn’t about begging God to do what you want—it’s about believing He will, in His perfect timing. Remember, when you align your mindset with God’s truth, you’re not just praying for an outcome; you’re building a faith that’s unshakable, no matter what life throws your way.