Blog 3: Mindset Makeover Monday 3 7.8.24

Here’s My Story:

I DIDN’T MAKE “THE CUT”!

Chyle, lemme tell you a story, it all started waaaay back in my Crissy and Barbie doll

era. As a kid, I always had a great imagination. Not necessarily by choice, seeing I

spent a lot of time just me and my babies (as I so affectionately called them)! I was

always interested in trying various hairstyles, even creating some of my own. As I grew

older and the styles that called for bows, ribbons and clips began to become boring, I

wanted to venture into styles with a more creative teen flair. After looking in magazines,

I got a pair of scissors and with eager enthusiasm I gave my best 10-year-old guess on

how to accomplish my goal.

Needless to say, my babies began to look like rag dolls after my “signature lawnmower

look”. Over and over and over again, I tried my best to course correct and as a result,

my dolls sported a “botched buzz chic cut”. They were ready for the garbage and as for

me – well “The Hairdresser Hall of Shame”! I felt defeated and utterly perplexed. What

went wrong!!!

The love of styling hair remained close to my heart, so in my late 20’s I decided to go to

Cosmetology school. I was accepted into one of the best schools at that time. I was so

excited but memories of those early “failed” attempts (in my jaded opinion) were still

etched in my mind. The fear of inadequacy and failure were tenaciously competing to

annihilate my confidence to ultimately destroy my hopes and dreams of successfully

learning the proper way to cut hair. Although, I was in the top school to accomplish this

feat, my self-talk kept ruminating my childhood Limiting Belief that learning to cut hair

was sooooooo DIFFICULT! I listened intently as my instructor spoke and demonstrated

lesson after lesson. In a panic, I realized that I couldn’t hear or understand anything

they were saying or doing because the narrative that I held on to for so long had blinded

and deafened the eyes and ears of my understanding. All I could hear and see during

those times was wah, wah wah, wah,wah! My instructor’s words were greatly distorted

by my own deeply rooted belief system. I developed and held tightly to a Mindset of

defeat from childhood that convinced me that this feat would be so difficult for me to

comprehend and so it was! My beliefs created my reality!

If you believe you can or if you believe you can’t – EITHER WAY YOU’RE RIGHT!

MINDSET MAKEOVER THOUGHT: We live the life of whom WE BELIEVE we are!

Once you accept that identity (the person you believe you are) your brain will be

wired to keep you there, even if that place is not your desired goal. It is where you

“settle”! It becomes your point of ‘RESOLVE”!

QUESTION: What have you BELIEVED about yourself that caused you to “settle” for

less than your desired goal?

My LIMITING BELIEF: I convinced myself (from a girl to young adult) that learning to cut

hair is VERY difficult.